Therapists rely on a wide range of approaches and techniques; what you need is a therapist who connects with you. It’s also important to know that your therapist has the right credentials (scroll down for information on my training). I tailor my approach and technique to each patient.
I was trained in psychoanalysis at university and completed a therapeutic psychoanalysis with a member of the Société Psychanalytique de Paris (SPP). However, I am not a psychoanalyst. I generally use John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory as a frame and over the past twenty years, as I witnessed groundbreaking developments in neurosciences, I opened up to other methods, in particular Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Mindfulness.
Actually, beyond my clinical activities, I’ve incorporated Mindfulness in my own daily life and practice zen meditation regularly in addition to tai chi and qi gong. I believe in a multi-pronged, non dogmatic approach to mental health. You can listen to my guided meditations here.
My own background is multi-cultural and I’ve lived in many countries across the Americas, Europe, Africa, the Middle East and Asia. This made me aware of the challenges that can arise as we move across cultures and this awareness, in turn, informs my practice as a clinician.
In therapy, our aim is to bring change to your life thanks to your strengths. While I am aware that patients come with their own history, therapy is focused on the future more than the past.
Therapy can help you in many life situations, such as:
- Fertility issues
- Grief, loss, bereavement
- Cultural adjustments
- Relationship difficulties (for couple counseling, see here)
Maybe you can’t identify what’s wrong; you just know you want to feel better, or realize you are being harmful to yourself or others. No matter what your concerns are, if you feel you cannot cope with your current life situation, call to get help.
About remote sessions (tele-mental health)
Although most couples who seek counseling as a couple are spouses or life partners, couple counseling can help any two people who cannot listen to each other – for instance two siblings, a parent and a child, etc.
The need for couple counseling typically arises when the couple encounters a crisis or a change. This can be financial issues, a career change, infidelity, a cultural misunderstanding, and many other things.
Couple counseling cannot bring you back to a time (an idealized time, maybe) when the relationship was problem-free. My goal as a therapist is not to mediate or to judge bur rather to help you restart an open conversation, to bring awareness to how you communicate, and to establish new ways of communicating, outside the “blame game.” Ultimately, the goal is to better understand each other and to learn to care for each other.
If you’ve already decided you want to separate, couple counseling can help you make this happen respectfully.